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GLORIA ARENSON EFT example:
EFT For Procrastination


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Chapter 2:

The Waiting Game

We all seem busier than ever these days, living life in a fast lane. We have turned into a nation of multi-taskers. We have also turned into a procrastination nation since, for many of us, there isn’t enough time to catch up. A little procrastination won’t ruin your life, but sometimes it becomes a problem and keeps you from having the life you were meant to have. This book will show you an easy way to come to terms with the stresses of procrastination and overcome this common problem.
Putting things off or not finishing are behaviors that many of us adopt to avoid uncomfortable feelings of pain, guilt, shame, anxiety or fear. Procrastinators come in all sizes and shapes, young and old, all colors, denominations, from all walks of life and many cultures. Procrastinators are not stupid, weak, or bad.
Procrastination is not a disease, although procrastinators rarely seem to be able to recover from it. If you Google the word procrastination, you will discover that we tend to view procrastination as a horrendous condition, impossible to conquer. It is so daunting that, according to experts on many different websites, we should seek to: avoid it, trick it, manage it, get around it, learn to live with it, structure it, control it, reduce it or push past it.

As a psychotherapist with over twenty-five years experience, I know that it is possible to put an end to this behavior.


It’s a Compulsion
Telling a procrastinator to buy a Blackberry or Day Planner to keep track of her life is like telling someone with depression to just think happy thoughts. It is more than a bad habit.
  • It’s not about using Willpower. Procrastination is a compulsion.
    One of my specialties is treating people who suffer from compulsive behaviors, especially compulsive overeating, binge purging, spending, debting, smoking, and Internet addiction to chat rooms and porn sites.
    My definition of compulsion is: If you cannot control when you start or when you stop a substance or behavior, you have a compulsion.
    Technically, we might say that compulsion is self-induced changes in neurotransmission that result in problem behaviors. That means that our behavior affects our brain, which then affects our behavior. Then it turns into what looks like a bad habit.
    I view procrastination as a compulsion because it is a behavior that people cannot control. It is a compulsion to not do.
    Putting things off is also a solution to other problems.



    Super Stress
    Once I understood that dynamic, I decided to apply the same approach with procrastinators that I use with other compulsive clients. The unstoppable urge to overeat compulsively, spend compulsively, or engage in other activities without being able to control it is usually triggered by a kind of stress that results from feeling powerless and angry because of a situation or relationship that you can’t change. I call this Super Stress.
    All compulsive people, including procrastinators, are looking for a way out of the discomfort of Super Stress. Addicts use pleasure to medicate their pain while procrastinators use avoidance.


    Forms
    Avoidance takes many forms.
  • As a procrastinator, you may also turn to overeating, spending, drinking, etc as a distraction that keeps you away from the project that you should be working on.
  • It is also easy to get lost in a book, hobby, TV show, the internet, DVDs, CDs, podcasts or phone calls rather than buckle down to the job you are putting off.
  • Some of my clients have even escaped into sleep.


    GLORIA ARENSON:
    Does procrastination keep you from accomplishing your goals?
    Do you find ways to avoid doing the things that you need to get done?
    Has procrastination affected your relationships?
    Would you like help changing this behavior?


    Putting things off or not finishing are behaviors that many of us adopt to avoid uncomfortable feelings of pain, guilt, shame, anxiety or fear. Procrastinators come in all sizes and shapes, young and old, all colors, denominations, from all walks of life and many cultures.
    Procrastinators are not stupid, weak, or bad. Many people think of procrastination as a horrendous condition, impossible to conquer. It is so daunting that, according to experts, we should seek to: avoid it, trick it, manage it, get around it, learn to live with it, structure it, control it, reduce it or push past it. It is possible to put an end to this behavior now.
    Procrastination is not just a bad habit; it is a compulsion. My definition of compulsion is if you can’t control when you start or stop a substance or activity, you have a compulsion. Procrastination is the inability to stop stopping yourself. That is why it is so difficult to overcome. The more procrastinators delay, avoid or forget, the more guilt and shame builds up, and self-esteem suffers. Energy Psychology techniques can eliminate the underlying causes of this chronic negative behavior.

    Procrastination is fueled by FEAR. Recent discoveries in brain function and chemistry provide new understanding and new ways to cope with behavioral problems. Unpleasant experiences in the past may have created specific fear reactions that are chemically coded in the brains of procrastinators. In their present lives, they have experiences that remind the brain of those old situations when parents, teachers or peers ridiculed them, authority figures punished them, etc. The brain reactivates that moment as if it was happening again.
    Procrastinatorsbecomes stuck in the fear state and put off beginning, working on or finishing things in order to avoid reliving their painful past.
    These early life experiences lead procrastinators to make decisions that have remained in their unconscious mind ever since. False Beliefs such as, “I must be perfect or I am a failure.”“People will laugh at me if I get things wrong.” “It is dangerous to be too successful.” or “If I succeed I will always have to be the best.”become their life scripts.

    Most procrastinators are so used to living with these fears that constant anxiety seems a natural way of life.
    Energy Psychology techniques (EFT) can enable procrastinators to re-evaluate thoughts, beliefs and behaviors and heal the emotional scars of the early frightening memories that led to these False Beliefs and perpetuate this negative behavior.


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